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29 June, 1918

Dearest Dada:

Your three letters from
Stuyvesant were a complete sur-
prise to me, as I have had no
inkling of your intentions. The letters
were most interesting, and I can
well imagine the joy of "grubbing"
in the soil. Ah well! You said
that when you are physically tired, you
forget that such things as wasted
opportunities exist and that [] discontent
scatter like the clouds! I am
glad that you've found some outlet
for your seething turmoil. As
for me, I am afraid that I am
still where I was. The weather
is hot - so sticky and damp
that not a day passes without [page break]
having a most nerve-racking
headache. I also tried some garden-
ing: but became so sunburnt
that the family were most un-
complimentary, and I had to
be exiled for a week to gain a
new layer of skin.

At Ying Mei Chin's wedding
the other day, the groom was very
ill, & could hardly drag him-
self around. The following day,
the bride came down with
a horrible toothache. Now
they are still in town instead
of on their honeymoon.

H.K. is to be the best
man at Jung Hiu Liu's wedd-
ing this afternoon. You know
I was to be the maid of honor [page break]
at this wedding too. I am so thank-
ful I am not! For of course
I don't want to walk down the
aisle with him.

The other day - yesterday to
be exact, I went back to
Jung Hiu's hotel with her after
luncheon, & who should be there
waiting for her but H.K...I
saw him first, & immediately
dropped everything & took flight.
Jung Hiu, though, chased me &
I was obliged to go back. I
do not know why, but I
did not want to see him at
all. I was writhing in em-
barassment the whole time, [page break]
although heaven knows, I
have no cause to be. We were
both frigidly polite. At first
he tried to get back on the
old footing: but I suppose
I was so stiff and chilly that
I froze him too. I've decided
to adopt a gay nonchalance
when I see him today.

Well, Dada, so grandmother
wants you to get married! My
family lately hasn't said much
to me on this subject: but I
suppose if they know some-
thing I am going to tell you, they [page break]
would be greatly excited.

As you know, I wrote you that
as far as caring goes, the man
I marry will get nothing but
just friendship from me. Well,
this still holds time. There is
a man much older than I,
about fifteen years older,
who wants to marry me! He
understands that I do not
love him, & in all probability
I never shall. Yet he still
wants me to marry him. I
like & respect him: he is a
man of great executive ability,
and very quiet and unassuming,
and what is more, very [page break]
conservative in his ideas. He
is very wealthy too, and
told me that if I marry
him, I can help him
with the social work of
laborers in his factories.
We could do great things in
educational and social
improvements for his
men: the first private
enterprise of the kind in
China. Just fancy, a
school, a gymnasium,
a recreation center for
the factory hands, and [page break]
trained social workers to
instill ideas of decency,
democracy, and humanity
into the minds of these men
and women. And I am to
help in this great work!

I have not decided what
to do - I wish you were here to talk
over matters. The man is a
gentleman, his family and
connections are of the best,
he is kind, considerate, and
very gentle. I do not suppose
he ever flies into a temper
as I do. My love - that
I cannot give him: I can [page break]
try to be a good companion,
and a thoughtful comrade if
I wish. Yet while in one way,
everything is simple, in
another light, it is very
complex and hard to decide.
I am not yet sure what
is the best to be done. At
present I've told him that
I'll think the matter over.

Yours with love